When things get really overwhelming, we begin to grieve; but, it can be hard to recognize we are grieving and know which stage we are in, especially if you are not familiar with the grieving process. On top of that, there could be so much going on that it is also difficult to know exactly what you are grieving. When you are feeling so overwhelmed that you believe there is no hope, try to remember that your feelings are normal responses to stressors in your life, whether you caused them or not. The grieving process is worth researching because it will give you insight and help you process your thoughts and feelings so that the pain will go away sooner than later.
- We deny problems exist because we cannot allow ourselves to feel the pain associated with them.
- We barter because we justify that there must be another way so that we can continue avoiding the pain that really is sure to come one day.
- We get angry because we believe we shouldn’t have to feel the pain; but, we are.
- We become depressed when we feel powerless and feel a deep sense of loss.
- Finally, we accept the problems and the emotional pain they cause us.
It is important to recognize that the grieving process is different for everyone. Depending on the severity of the problems, one’s mental health, outlook on life, physical health, economic health and other variables, a person may be able to process through each stage either very quickly or it may take many years of being stuck in one of the stages. Hopefully we do not repress our anger either because long term it can cause physical illnesses and shorten our lifespan.
If you are struggling with your emotions, it is wise to figure why so that you can live the happiest, healthiest life possible! The key to overcoming all losses is truly loving yourself. Never put yourself down or speak unkindly to yourself in your mind or outloud, ever! You are a beautiful being and deserve all the happiness in the world. Hang in there and seek out a good friend who knows you well and listens to you.
If you are ever feeling suicidal, please seek out professional help. No matter what you are experiencing, you can and will get through it! You are very powerful.
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255